Oh, I typically don’t bullet point things because I don’t want people to think any are less important. They are only to separate ideas… All are as important as the aforementioned and latter.
HAPPY READING!
Dear Black Women:
In the wake of leaving the college world and joining “adult life” and not being completely serious with any individual, it has come to my attention that I am officially a member of the black dating pool. With that said, we are in competition. And being the woman I am… I would like to offer a little friendly advice to said competitors. Why… you may ask?! Because 1.) I’ve seen some women in serious need of help 2.) After “going up” against a much older, well-established woman and conquering (in 5 minutes) what she could not in a year and 3.) Realizing that I am soooo not ready for a relationship, it only behooves me to offer these notions.
Smile!!!
It is so simple that it's genius! No one, I mean, no one wants to EVER approach another human being that ALWAYS has a scowl. We know you’re angry. You’re a black woman, and we are stereotypically angry people. So when you’re out in a social atmosphere... SMILE. Then maybe when you head to your after spot with your homegirls you won’t have to talk about how WACK the brothers were. More likely than not on those nights when you aren't approached, they hollered at the friendly looking women (most likely – white girls) because they are APPROACHABLE. If you're angry at least don't look it.
(Seriously, it's the NUMBER 1 Google Result)Get the man… then frown.
Be a Friend
More times than I can count, I've heard my guy friends "fall into (insert bullish word for love)" with a long-time friend. When you start a relationship right out of the gate, all the facts WON'T be on the table; for several reasons, but mainly:
1.) You aren't sure you like him enough to let him in (and especially vice versa)
2.)Even if you do like him that much, how do you know that he needs all of your pertinent information that early in a relationship.
3.) Do you really want to let him in on your "special friend" (fwb, toys, and whatnot)? I THINK NOT!
Learn to kick it. And look like you're having a good time with him. Watch some football or some MMA!
Plus:
He plays football -->
It WILL NOT kill you to take an interest in his interest.
BIGGEST difference from my white roomies and my black roomies was the ability to DISCUSS and resolve issues. And it was easy to see how these communication tactics translated into other relationships.
Learn to submit... Or at least fake it!
And BTW... Your
Andre 3000 told you, but I'll take this opportunity to reiterate. You wonder why you don't have a man. Who really wants someone who thinks they're better than everyone else? (And acts like it... You can secretly, subtly think you're too good but not blatantly) You WON'T find a man with education, conversation, a family-oriented lifestyle, spiritual strength, and (insert all of your ridiculous shallow desires here) good looking, 6ft plus, pretty teeth, and good hair, if you are too busy tearing brothers down.
Stop talking down to everyone past and present like your college degree made you some guru. You're still the same... Just some initials on you name. You won't be everyone's boss, no one is going to crawl up to you begging, and ain't nobody gone chase you. Get over yourself.
Michelle had more clout, influence, pull, and money that Barack... After he begged for a while she gave him a chance. Take notice. Potential goes a LOOOOOONG WAY!
Remember: Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome... Try something NEW!
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